A second time mum’s positive birth – in her car outside the Coombe

On 29th November at 38+6, I went for my weekly reflexology appointment. During the session I could feel the baby really moving around. That night as my husband put our daughter to bed and I was preparing dinner, I had a real sense that it was our ‘last supper’. I’d a lovely relaxing night and a bath before bed. At about 4am on 30th November – I was 39 weeks – I woke with pains, they were about 10 minutes apart and very intense, much more so than when my labour started with my daughter. Continue reading

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Irish mum’s second birth in the US with midwives

Well as I’d gone early with my first daughter I assumed I’d be the same on my second birth. So 40 weeks came and went and no sign of baba!

I had decided early on I’d go with midwives as I’d seen that film “the business of being born” and I was nervous of the over-medicalised view of birth in America. Through friends I found a lovely midwife group who were very supportive of natural birth and just letting women do what they need to do during labour. I was really keen for a natural birth this time. Even though I had one the first time I was a little worried that this birth could be different and I wanted to do as much as I could to help me achieve this. So myself and my husband did a 12 week antenatal course (Bradley birthing class) and I read loads of inspiring books on birthing. Ina May Gaskin’s book quickly became a favourite. Continue reading

A natural active birth for a second time mother

On my first, I wanted to do it without pain relief, but I didn’t prepared, and when I was induced, I felt like my body had failed me. When I asked for pethidine and then the epidural I continued to feel like I had failed somehow. Although I escaped without episiotomy or section, I didn’t feel like I had any control – it was something that was happening to me, not something I was actively taking part in. So I wanted to do things differently this time around. Continue reading

A second time mother’s home birth

I was due on 27 December 2012 and waited for my so much wanted home birth. On my due date everybody was asking if anything started and really annoyed as it was putting more pressure on me and reminded me of 14 days countdown. I had absolutely no signs of upcoming labour. I started losing any hope for home birth with days passing. On 3 days overdue I woke up full of energy and ridden with period cramps but irregular. They were gone by night time. Next day passed really quietly, no cramps, no energy. Continue reading

A waterbirth at home for a second time mum

It’s hard to believe it’s 3 weeks to the day (now just over 4 as it’s taken me a week to finish this!) since Lorcan arrived – just like with Aoife it’s almost like he was never not here, yet I can’t quite figure out where he came from! Every now and then I find myself looking at him thinking “where did you come from!” Funny, how we have 9 months to prepare and it still seems to take us
unawares. Continue reading

Country Comparison: Fast home birth in water for an Irish mother in Australia

We moved to Western Australia in May 2012 and I became pregnant in July. I immediately decided I would have this baby at home with minimal intervention or pressure on me like last time. I applied to the local Midwifery Program attached to the hospital and was accepted for home birth! Continue reading

Jessica’s birth story: incompatible with life

We found out we were expecting our second child in June 2012. We were thrilled. I was unsure of my dates so we booked an early scan for later that week they said I was 7 weeks pregnant. We were delighted when we found out our baby was due on our anniversary, it felt that it was meant to be.

I never suffered with any sickness just some nausea and tiredness but otherwise feeling good. I had a couple of appointments and all was looking well. I wasn’t really showing at all but wasn’t concerned as I had been the same on my 1st pregnancy. Continue reading

Country Comparison: A second baby in a US birth centre for an Irish mum

I’m an Irishwoman who lives in America. My first child was born in Texas, and when he was four months old we moved north to a Maryland suburb of Washington DC. When I got pregnant again, 21 months later, several friends and acquaintances in the delightfully slightly-hippie-but-not-snobby town I live in recommended a birth centre about half an hour away. Having had a straightforward hospital birth with no epidural (but some narcotic) the last time, I was ready to try for an unmedicated birth. The centre is a five-minute drive from an excellent hospital, and I trusted the midwives to know in plenty of time if someone would need a transfer in an emergency. Continue reading

A second time mum’s first homebirth with a hospital scheme

My first son was born through a natural birth in hospital with the Holles Street Community Midwife team. This time around I felt empowered by my successful delivery and decided to try it at home. I was with the community midwives again and I can’t imagine giving birth without them by my side. Continue reading

Thank you to Shona the midwife

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Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I delivered my baby girl Ellie Saturday 22nd of June 2013 at 4.31 pm. I had a tough but quick labour. I was 12 days overdue, tired, emotional and terrified of another induction. My last experience was far from positive or even a happy time, you kept me focused and in control when I thought I’d lost it. You helped me breastfeed, didn’t make me feel like you were in a rush. Even when another midwife was trying to get me out of delivery suite you told her no. You took me to my ward gave me a hug and kiss. It meant so much. We had been so anxious and scared of returning to hospital again you changed all of that for us. Thank you so much Shona.

A second time mum’s positive birth story: when plans change unexpectedly

When I was 38 weeks I had an appointment in the midwifery-led unit (MLU) where we discussed my birth preferences, only to be reassured that everything I was talking about was considered best practice there. At home, as the birth approached, we reevaluated who should accompany me for the delivery. Charlie found the whole experience very traumatic last time around, and he felt it affected him for days afterwards. So when he developed a bad chest infection, we took it as a sign and asked my mother to step in as birth partner instead, something she was excited to do. Continue reading