A little bit of background, this was our 4th pregnancy, 1st pregnancy loss was at 18 weeks and it was a partial molar pregnancy requiring an ERPC (evacuation of retained products of conception) in January 2011, followed by an early miscarriage at 5.5 weeks in October 2011 and then another early miscarriage at 7 weeks in March 2012. Continue reading
I’ll start my story with the happy ending. As I write this, my 11 week old baby boy is sleeping peacefully in his moses basket. A wry smile plays on his lips as he dreams sweet baby dreams. I reach into the basket and gently run my hand across his high forehead and in that one action my happy ending is tinged with the sadness of events some twenty one months before. Continue reading
It was my wedding anniversary and we’d been spending the past few weeks mad busy doing a lot of painting in our new house. We had 2 weeks to go til my due date so we were both fairly relaxed as we’d heard first babies are usually overdue. So that day we took off and had a lovely big meal with his family and then more pasta later on…I had a big appetite all of a sudden. Just as well really as my waters broke at around 10pm that night. I rang the Rotunda who said just to head in as a precaution to see if waters clear and check me. I was letting out so much waters my tracksuit was soaked so I don’t think there was any doubt about the fact that it was really my waters breaking! Continue reading
So my due date of October 22nd came and went, I was really upset as I wanted to avoid induction as I had been induced on my first baby and had a negative experience. From 39 weeks in the Rotunda the doctors were talking about induction, mentioning issues like a previous shoulder dystocia and a big baby being probable. I had signed up to gentlebirth as I was so worried about having another horrific experience. I needed to be in control and gentlebirth gave me that! Tracy advised me to not worry about another dystocia and I continued to put off induction by saying things like ‘ oh we’ll hang on another day or two ‘. I was confident that the baby was fine and I thought that going to 17 days over would be fine. I don’t know where I got that number from but it was the one in my head for some reason! At ten days over the doctors started piling on the pressure but I resisted and told them I was happy to wait once me and the baby were ok. I asked one doctor to give me my Bishop’s score and he looked at me with horror and told me he didn’t do Bishop’s Scores! Continue reading
Cleo, my first baby, was born on 23rd February 2010. I really wanted to have a natural birth and used GentleBirth during my pregnancy from about 26 weeks, doing home study and attending the workshop. My main concerns were that I wanted to avoid an assisted delivery and what I saw as unnecessary perineal trauma that often accompanies epidural births. Also, the only person I had ever heard describe birth as a wonderful experience had had a home birth, obviously with no epidural. I’m also big into experiencing – travel, food etc. I felt that birth was something that I wanted to fully experience. My mother had described my birth as great – “like being at the hairdressers”. I didn’t want to feel like I was in the hairdressers, I wanted to experience birth in all it’s primal glory, if I could. I devoured Ina May Gaskin’s Guide to Childbirth and felt that, after all, I was born to birth, so I could do it. I had a great pregnancy and felt so well and energised as I approached my due date and then went over it. Continue reading
The MAMMI Study is a study looking at the health and health problems of women during pregnancy and during the first year after the birth of their first baby.
Many women experience motherhood in excellent physical health and enjoy the emotional fulfillment that it brings. Other mothers experience health problems, sometimes caused by pregnancy or an event that happens during or after the baby’s birth. Continue reading
As my baby boy was due just before the legendary Ina May Gaskin’s appearance at the Home Birth Association conference in 2012, I was hoping he would be four or more days late. My daughter was born 6 days after her estimated due date (EDD), so I fully expected to reach 41 weeks or so of pregnancy. Although her birth had been a positive and empowering experience in hospital, helped by using the GentleBirth programme, I knew I wanted a home birth next time. Continue reading
“My letter of thanks is to a midwife in the Rotunda. I was a first time mum who was admitted in labour very early. I had a long latent phase with an OP baby. The wards were really crowded and there was no delivery suite available so I was on an ante-natal ward, which was miserable. I felt I was losing control quite quickly trying to find space for myself and privacy to labour. I felt so exposed. In the afternoon a new midwife came on. She was foreign, I am pretty sure German! For the life of me I cannot remember her name but her face is etched in my memory forever! She was amazing.
She took me out of the ante-natal ward and brought me into the bath. I laboured in the bath for hours in privacy with this midwife checking in on me. Once out of the bath, she brought me into a room which had been closed off rather than back to the ante-natal ward. I stayed there hidden away in the dark to labour in peace until it was time to go to the delivery ward. Once in the delivery, I was nearly there, baby had turned, and I had a quick vaginal birth with no intervention and only the smallest of tears. That was 10 years ago and I am so thankful to her and the kindness she showed me. Her patience and knowledge of normal birth – to give me the space and time to labour as I needed – it was so important and I am sure made a huge impact on the birth that I had. Thank you, thank you! I will never forget you!”
The day before Little Man’s birth, I was feeling a bit more tired than normal. I had planned to clear out the wardrobe in the baby’s room, and I made a start on it, but soon after I started, I hurt my shoulder – not sure how. So I took it easy the rest of the day. I had already slept for 11 hours straight the night before, but even so, I slept for two hours that afternoon. When it came time to go to yoga I was still too tired so I went to sleep instead. Just as well! I was also starving and ate a huge big dinner. At 10pm I was lying in bed, writing emails to people and wishing hubbie would hurry up and come to bed. Continue reading